The Truth About Forty

I turned 40 in January, and I wanted to blog about that supposed monumental occasion. But I wasn't ready then.  I am now...

My BFSF sent me this card to mark the occasion. It was a cute card, and it did make me laugh out loud a few times. But make no mistake; I was not apprehensive about leaving my 30's. Nor have I ever been one of those women who isn't forthcoming about her age. 

The Hubs, my sister, and my BFSF all turned 40 before I did, so I expected to feel something as I entered the big "4-Oh Club" because for them, "40" was...IS...a game changer.  Surprisingly, I felt no different. There were no epiphanies. Nothing. Nada. Nil. Zilch. Zip. Zero. Zippo.

The day was a memorable one, though. The Hubs had 40 roses, one for each year, delivered to me at school plus one very delicious and decadent carrot cake. Yum!

To commemorate entering the "40 club," I didn't want a big bash or a "big deal" celebration. Instead, I opted for a quiet dinner with my family. This birthday was no different from previous ones.

But...at the age of 40, some things are rather clear to me.

I'm not 20 any more.

I am closer to 50. Now I think that number may affect me more. 40...not so much.

People shouldn't wait for a significant birthday to make changes in their life. Live each day with intention.

Perform a small act of kindness at least once every day. It makes you feel good, and it brings a smile to someone else.

Some people are only in your life for a season. Others, play a more significant role and are in your life for a longer period.

You can love your family, but you can't change them. I have to remind myself of this often.

I'm starting to notice one too many grey hairs. I'm trying to stop plucking them.

I am more comfortable living in my own skin.

I like me.

I don't feel so bad saying, "No," now.

I am not into pleasing others any more.

I am more about pleasing me and my family.

I tend to spend more time doing what makes me, and not others, happy.

I intentionally choose where and with whom I spend my free time; no toxicity or drama wanted here.

Even if I'm running late, I have to make the bed.  And Buddy Roller's too.

I am actually looking forward to retirement. I'm already brainstorming how I'll spend my time.

Always choose kindness. In the heat of the moment, it can be easy to forget this. But kindness wins every time.